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Amanda Knox: "Americanism" on Trial?
Mon, Dec 7 2009 12:01
Arrogance Abroad
Was Amanda Knox guilty? Was Amanda Knox innocent?
Maria Cantwell, the U.S. Senator from Amanda Knox's home state of Washington, questions the justice system of another country and declares that "anti-Americanism" may have been the cause of the guilty verdict.
The problem, as with many decisions or judgments, is in understanding the definitions of terms, as well as how a differing venue can change them. Americanism. Acceptability.
The American-produced post-verdict analyses of Amanda Knox's trial, show Americans saying "I look at her, and it could have been me." The truth is that the rest of the world could easily be saying, with disdain, "We look at her, and we see 'typical Americans abroad.'"
Europeans have told me that many Americans seem to think of Europe as just another "theme park." A "playground" into which Americans bring their vulgar behavior, coupled with disdain for others' culture and values. Attitudinal issues are not limited to Europe alone. Thomas Friedman of the New York Times has accurately described the U.S. view of Middle Eastern countries purely as "a gas station," overlooking those countries' cultural contributions to humanity or their potential as a highly educated work force.
Before we self-righteously declare "anti-Americanism" as some sort of defense, we need to look at ourselves from others' points of view. Is the trial of Amanda Knox revealing something about ourselves for which we may feel guilt? and for which we may actually feel some shame?
For many Americans, Knox's actions (despite the acknowledged illegality even in the U.S. of smoking dope) apparently seem "normal" or "acceptable." The assumption by Americans that other cultures would adopt an American definition of "normality" or "acceptability" reflects yet an additional deficient element of "Americanism" -- a parochial world view. Any expectation that the world should play by our rules and our values (and then crying foul when it does not) is either the most basic form of stupidity or arrogance. The crux of the matter is not whether Amanda Knox's actions are accepted at home, rather it is whether her actions were "acceptable" in her host country.
Any citizen of any country is an ambassador of their home country when abroad, in most cases traveling without diplomatic immunity. Any actions in which a person engages contribute to the image of one's home country. The collective image that evolves over time, is and will be used by others as a frame of reference for judgment. Foreigners in the U.S. are equally stereotyped by the actions of their compatriots. Have we not seen judgment of a culture be based solely on a person from that culture whom one has met or perhaps has seen as depicted only in films? Can we, ourselves, unequivocally state that such a "framework" or "profile" of a culture has not influenced a judgment of an individual in our system of justice?
As I traveled abroad, well before Amanda Knox, I often was received in terms of a stereotype of "American women," which at the time assumed promiscuity and wealth. The saga of Amanda Knox has only contributed to that image. She is guilty, even if not of other crimes, certainly in terms of contributing to that repulsive stereotype of all women in our nation. In this she is certainly not alone: films and music videos continue to project an image of American female promiscuity.
The "Americanism" of smoking dope and having casual extramarital sex are not values that all Americans support. Do we think that any person, anywhere, would wish their children to adopt these behaviors? Yet, the American "entertainment" industry continues to export that image as being representative of "American values." "Freedom" has been redefined in terms of self-centeredness and self-gratification, without the need for responsibility for the effects of one's actions.
If that image is "Americanism," then yes, I myself feel a sentiment of "anti-Americanism." Knox is a product of a culture that allowed her to believe in the acceptability of such behavior. She has thereby contributed to a depiction of Americans that is going to make them misunderstood before they even speak or act for years and years. Who is guilty? Perhaps Amanda. But the fault, dear Brutus, lies not just in Amanda, but in ourselves.
Was Amanda Knox guilty? Was Amanda Knox innocent?
Maria Cantwell, the U.S. Senator from Amanda Knox's home state of Washington, questions the justice system of another country and declares that "anti-Americanism" may have been the cause of the guilty verdict.The problem, as with many decisions or judgments, is in understanding the definitions of terms, as well as how a differing venue can change them. Americanism. Acceptability.
The American-produced post-verdict analyses of Amanda Knox's trial, show Americans saying "I look at her, and it could have been me." The truth is that the rest of the world could easily be saying, with disdain, "We look at her, and we see 'typical Americans abroad.'"
Europeans have told me that many Americans seem to think of Europe as just another "theme park." A "playground" into which Americans bring their vulgar behavior, coupled with disdain for others' culture and values. Attitudinal issues are not limited to Europe alone. Thomas Friedman of the New York Times has accurately described the U.S. view of Middle Eastern countries purely as "a gas station," overlooking those countries' cultural contributions to humanity or their potential as a highly educated work force.
Before we self-righteously declare "anti-Americanism" as some sort of defense, we need to look at ourselves from others' points of view. Is the trial of Amanda Knox revealing something about ourselves for which we may feel guilt? and for which we may actually feel some shame?
For many Americans, Knox's actions (despite the acknowledged illegality even in the U.S. of smoking dope) apparently seem "normal" or "acceptable." The assumption by Americans that other cultures would adopt an American definition of "normality" or "acceptability" reflects yet an additional deficient element of "Americanism" -- a parochial world view. Any expectation that the world should play by our rules and our values (and then crying foul when it does not) is either the most basic form of stupidity or arrogance. The crux of the matter is not whether Amanda Knox's actions are accepted at home, rather it is whether her actions were "acceptable" in her host country.
Any citizen of any country is an ambassador of their home country when abroad, in most cases traveling without diplomatic immunity. Any actions in which a person engages contribute to the image of one's home country. The collective image that evolves over time, is and will be used by others as a frame of reference for judgment. Foreigners in the U.S. are equally stereotyped by the actions of their compatriots. Have we not seen judgment of a culture be based solely on a person from that culture whom one has met or perhaps has seen as depicted only in films? Can we, ourselves, unequivocally state that such a "framework" or "profile" of a culture has not influenced a judgment of an individual in our system of justice?
As I traveled abroad, well before Amanda Knox, I often was received in terms of a stereotype of "American women," which at the time assumed promiscuity and wealth. The saga of Amanda Knox has only contributed to that image. She is guilty, even if not of other crimes, certainly in terms of contributing to that repulsive stereotype of all women in our nation. In this she is certainly not alone: films and music videos continue to project an image of American female promiscuity.
The "Americanism" of smoking dope and having casual extramarital sex are not values that all Americans support. Do we think that any person, anywhere, would wish their children to adopt these behaviors? Yet, the American "entertainment" industry continues to export that image as being representative of "American values." "Freedom" has been redefined in terms of self-centeredness and self-gratification, without the need for responsibility for the effects of one's actions.
If that image is "Americanism," then yes, I myself feel a sentiment of "anti-Americanism." Knox is a product of a culture that allowed her to believe in the acceptability of such behavior. She has thereby contributed to a depiction of Americans that is going to make them misunderstood before they even speak or act for years and years. Who is guilty? Perhaps Amanda. But the fault, dear Brutus, lies not just in Amanda, but in ourselves.
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Avoid the rush...
Wed, Oct 14 2009 12:01
Don't become a cliche, or worse, a joke
Earlier this week, Seth Godin, business author and self-proclaimed "agent of change," published a short and sweet blog about decision-making. A former colleague called my attention to statements Godin made in that post.
We agreed that Godin's statement "'no decision' is a decision" is absolutely correct. However, Godin over-focuses on rapidly reaching the moment of deciding. By doing so he implies that speed in deciding, and volume of speedy decisions made, are more important than thinking in advance about robustness or implications, thereby decrying these very important aspects of good decision-making. To ignore them is extremely hazardous (at least if we are speaking of decisions having some import). Godin's attempt to preempt such a criticism with "it's risky and painful" is simply too blasé. In fact, urgency in decision-making for all the reasons Godin suggests has already been soundly criticized by Thomas L. Friedman in his analysis of Bush's decision to go to war.
The call to "Doooo something. Anything!" is not a particularly level-headed approach to decision-making. And level-headed decision-making does not require inordinate lengths of time. Godin's statements are a somewhat binary view of thinking/deciding, that seems somehow connected to timing. Implied are: "One has to act, and act quickly, to have meaning, to make a difference." "Thinking wastes time." "Never mind the consequences."
Intended or not, such statements encourage a "shoot-from-the-hip" mentality. To deem this approach "a rare and valuable skill" is just not true. Rare? No, indeed. This attitude prevails. Why do we think the altered phrase "fire, ready, aim" to describe this behavior became an overnight cliche? And valuable? Does increasing risk and liability ensure enhanced value?
There is no question that Godin's statements will indeed have great appeal to many managers that most of us know or have known over the years.
Its allure will not be for any deep insights, but for its applicability as justification for potentially highly damaging behavior. It appeals to a sound-byte mentality that is prevalent throughout the business world, a world that is obsessed, at least in America, with speed. "Swift" decisions. "Rapid" conclusions. Speed, now with the safety net of Godin the Business Guru's statements in one's pocket, will demonstrate that the decider is not rushing blindly, but has brilliance.
There have been other sound bytes that have traversed the business world over the past decades. "The data will set you free" was bandied about to counter the approach Godin has again promoted. The term "analysis paralysis" came into being to counter the prolonged searches for data that caused paralysis. All seem to take "a turn in the barrel" of business aphorisms. Eventually these maxims find a place in a much more insightful arena.
Imagine for a moment we hadn't read this on Seth's Blog, but in Dilbert.
Earlier this week, Seth Godin, business author and self-proclaimed "agent of change," published a short and sweet blog about decision-making. A former colleague called my attention to statements Godin made in that post.
We agreed that Godin's statement "'no decision' is a decision" is absolutely correct. However, Godin over-focuses on rapidly reaching the moment of deciding. By doing so he implies that speed in deciding, and volume of speedy decisions made, are more important than thinking in advance about robustness or implications, thereby decrying these very important aspects of good decision-making. To ignore them is extremely hazardous (at least if we are speaking of decisions having some import). Godin's attempt to preempt such a criticism with "it's risky and painful" is simply too blasé. In fact, urgency in decision-making for all the reasons Godin suggests has already been soundly criticized by Thomas L. Friedman in his analysis of Bush's decision to go to war.
The call to "Doooo something. Anything!" is not a particularly level-headed approach to decision-making. And level-headed decision-making does not require inordinate lengths of time. Godin's statements are a somewhat binary view of thinking/deciding, that seems somehow connected to timing. Implied are: "One has to act, and act quickly, to have meaning, to make a difference." "Thinking wastes time." "Never mind the consequences."
Intended or not, such statements encourage a "shoot-from-the-hip" mentality. To deem this approach "a rare and valuable skill" is just not true. Rare? No, indeed. This attitude prevails. Why do we think the altered phrase "fire, ready, aim" to describe this behavior became an overnight cliche? And valuable? Does increasing risk and liability ensure enhanced value?
There is no question that Godin's statements will indeed have great appeal to many managers that most of us know or have known over the years.
Its allure will not be for any deep insights, but for its applicability as justification for potentially highly damaging behavior. It appeals to a sound-byte mentality that is prevalent throughout the business world, a world that is obsessed, at least in America, with speed. "Swift" decisions. "Rapid" conclusions. Speed, now with the safety net of Godin the Business Guru's statements in one's pocket, will demonstrate that the decider is not rushing blindly, but has brilliance.
There have been other sound bytes that have traversed the business world over the past decades. "The data will set you free" was bandied about to counter the approach Godin has again promoted. The term "analysis paralysis" came into being to counter the prolonged searches for data that caused paralysis. All seem to take "a turn in the barrel" of business aphorisms. Eventually these maxims find a place in a much more insightful arena.
Imagine for a moment we hadn't read this on Seth's Blog, but in Dilbert.
Back to the Sixties
Mon, Oct 12 2009 12:01
Who's whiffing now?
In a BBC article about Obama and his strategy for Afghanistan, Paul Adams reports on a small anti-war protest as "a whiff of the Sixties" with "some way to go." Unfortunately, the main subject of his article is somewhat lost as he goes on to describe "elegantly coiffured Ms. Pelosi" and her "Senate colleague, the Majority Leader Harry Reid" who "put an avuncular - perhaps even patronizing - arm around her shoulder."
Ironically, the attempt to show sexism as alive and well in Washington was made in the first half of Adam's remark. In the comparison of the two, Pelosi is described in terms of her looks, Reid by his title.
Occasionally we can expect a relapse in perspective from the now-retiring or already-retired generations who needed awakening (yes, in the Sixties) to this type of verbal patronizing of women in the news. But Adams is young, relatively speaking. Astonishingly, it is both males and females of his generation that are perpetuating the demeaning of women's ideas and stature through frivolous reporting.
The Sotomayor hearings, as covered in the New York Times, fell victim to this same manner of reporting. Apparently some female reporters think they are still relegated to writing articles for the Style section: Kate Phillips': "Ms. Sotomayor wore a cobalt blue pants suit, a color often worn by Hillary Rodham Clinton." Sheryl Gay Stolberg's: "her flaming red jacket" and "her manicured nails painted a pale pink."
Judgments are decisions. Decisions need to be made with facts that are relevant. Options, and even people, should be assessed against all facts deemed relevant. Applying criteria to only some and not to others being judged is always seen as unfair. It is the definition of "double standard." It is also true for descriptors that cause judgment. Not only are the judgments questionable, but the persons putting forth the case for and against are doubted as to their ability to be fair.
These reporters do not remember that this same issue, of having two standards for judgment based on gender, was brought forth during the Sixties. Overcoming this double standard allowed women reporters to move more easily from the Style section to the front page. Reading this type of reporting...well, it is definitely a whiff of the Sixties, if not the Fifties.
In a BBC article about Obama and his strategy for Afghanistan, Paul Adams reports on a small anti-war protest as "a whiff of the Sixties" with "some way to go." Unfortunately, the main subject of his article is somewhat lost as he goes on to describe "elegantly coiffured Ms. Pelosi" and her "Senate colleague, the Majority Leader Harry Reid" who "put an avuncular - perhaps even patronizing - arm around her shoulder."
Ironically, the attempt to show sexism as alive and well in Washington was made in the first half of Adam's remark. In the comparison of the two, Pelosi is described in terms of her looks, Reid by his title.
Occasionally we can expect a relapse in perspective from the now-retiring or already-retired generations who needed awakening (yes, in the Sixties) to this type of verbal patronizing of women in the news. But Adams is young, relatively speaking. Astonishingly, it is both males and females of his generation that are perpetuating the demeaning of women's ideas and stature through frivolous reporting.
The Sotomayor hearings, as covered in the New York Times, fell victim to this same manner of reporting. Apparently some female reporters think they are still relegated to writing articles for the Style section: Kate Phillips': "Ms. Sotomayor wore a cobalt blue pants suit, a color often worn by Hillary Rodham Clinton." Sheryl Gay Stolberg's: "her flaming red jacket" and "her manicured nails painted a pale pink."
Judgments are decisions. Decisions need to be made with facts that are relevant. Options, and even people, should be assessed against all facts deemed relevant. Applying criteria to only some and not to others being judged is always seen as unfair. It is the definition of "double standard." It is also true for descriptors that cause judgment. Not only are the judgments questionable, but the persons putting forth the case for and against are doubted as to their ability to be fair.
These reporters do not remember that this same issue, of having two standards for judgment based on gender, was brought forth during the Sixties. Overcoming this double standard allowed women reporters to move more easily from the Style section to the front page. Reading this type of reporting...well, it is definitely a whiff of the Sixties, if not the Fifties.
Purpose for War
Mon, Oct 5 2009 12:01

Years ago a friend was telling a group about an episode in his life in which he countered an aggressive person pushing him with, "Hey, your right to swing your fist ends where my nose begins." A lawyer present said, "Actually, swinging the arm is 'assault.' 'Battery' is when it connects with the nose. " Another person said, "Aren't you describing the difference between 'diplomacy' and 'military action?'"
Perceptions have been that the U.S., as a nation, has acted as a bully, attempting to inflict a value system (one which we may love) onto others who may or may not desire it. We have not only "swung our arms," we've "connected with noses." In an absurd twist, the very act of forcing others to adopt "freedom" is counter to its meaning.
Originally, the Afghan war's purpose was defensive, i.e. to prevent further terrorist attacks. No one disputes that terrorist training camps existed in Afghanistan, and that they were tolerated by the then-government. Military actions were taken to remove these training camps and those who ran or supported them. One could say, validly, since the U.S. had been attacked by those who had been trained in these camps, that these actions were taken "in defense."
When a purpose changes, however, actions being taken may not align with or best serve the new purpose. Additionally, actions other than those underway, and which might better serve the new purpose, are overlooked. When the purpose of both the wars in Afghanistan and Iraq shifted during the Bush administration to being a "cause" for "spreading democracy worldwide," a critical change occurred.
"Promotion" is an aggressive word, in that it is acting outwardly. It describes the act of pushing for something. The perception of once-defensive military actions clearly shifted to a view of our taking actions to force the adoption of a new value system. Yet, the "push," the aggression, continued to be veiled by the word "defense," and it is this that has caused both anger and confusion. Learning from our mistakes is a must.
Agreement must be attained on whatever is the purpose of these wars, as Obama has indicated. Once this overarching reason for taking actions is defined and agreed upon, all potential actions should be assessed in terms of it.
If we wish "to promote democracy," if that is the agreed-upon purpose, is war the best mechanism to do so? Are there not peaceful means to do so? If the agreed upon purpose is other than the promotion of democracy, a different set of actions may be put forth. In either case, actions should be assessed in terms of the purpose. It is then that they will be understood for what they are, and, at least, the aura of deceit will abate.
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Needed: new rationale
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00

Yet again, we are being hit with news stories geared to practically nurture public outrage. Once again, the subject: executive bonuses. This time the recipient in question is Andrew Hall, head of Philbro, up for a bonus in the millions. I don't know which is more irritating: the large amounts in question, or the fact that these stories are becoming all too familiar both in stylistic construction and content. Big bonus. "Talent flight." Connections to "bail out" dollars. John Q. Public foots the bill.
If we are to move beyond outrage to acceptable solutions, more comprehensive thought about this compensation issue is necessary, if not by journalists, at least by the Pay Czar. Lack of clarity as to criteria for how "merit" is determined is typically at the core of any outrage related to compensation. If the public were given more than "talent flight" as the sole reason for bonuses, it would be a good place to start.
More reasons than one determine worthiness. These reasons have a relative importance. In addition, the Pay Czar must understand the full set of concerns from the public view. He must delve into the below-the-surface reasoning that drives the perceived point at which a sum of money given as pay or as a bonus switches from being reasonable to being considered "obscene" or morally reprehensible. These perceptions and concerns, too, have relative perceived levels of impact or pain.
Each potential recipient, now and in the future, should be assessed against the established criteria. The assessment must, with transparency, drive the amount granted. Additionally, integration of that merit assessment with the analysis of public perception will make decisions have a better chance of being deemed "reasonable." They will be defensible.
Without this discipline, the public will create their own myriad sets of criteria for judgment, not only for compensation granted, but for judging the Czar himself. We can then expect the focus of outrage, the topics of the articles, to shift from amounts of compensation to the capabilities of the person making the decision, in this case the Czar. And have we not heard and read similar stories in the past as well?
After the fires are out...being ready
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00
It is impressive to see the financially pinched world of non-profits offering the commercial sector some valuable, spot-on thinking expertise, as found in a commentary on how the arts are surviving this current economic crisis. I particularly resonated with the description of "crisis thinking" leading to organizations becoming "even sicker."An economist acquaintance of mine from Europe used to remind me that economic recessions were a time of cleaning house, making things leaner and better. A time of innovation. Of finding new and better ways to survive, in the long-term.
During tough economic times, the first things to be cut in many large businesses are personnel, training and travel. Also, though not often revealed, is the fact that activities related to long-term planning, are typically postponed or dispensed with entirely. The rationalization has been that these activities are "expendable" at a time when there is "serious fire-fighting" underway "just to survive." Contrary to the sage advice I was given, this "crisis thinking" does not bode well for innovation, or becoming leaner or better. What truly are the chances for survival following multiple cycle swings if this type of thinking dominates?
Economic cycles are reality. Tough times will continue to occur. Long-term planning, if done correctly, accounts for survival during present and future tough times. Tactics pursued for immediate survival, however, don't necessarily position for the long term.
Short-term thinking, because it is a problem-solving mindset, is typically reactive. Long-term thinking incorporates both reactions and proactive actions. It can be about survival, but it is also about positioning. If one's competition maintains this long-term view, it is the competition that will be ahead at the end of each downturn, when one is only regrouping and starting to "plan again."
Therefore, critical to the decisions one makes is a perspective in terms of time. Is one judging one's options in the context of the short-term or the long-term? The simple act of framing a decision in terms of time, would elevate the quality of judgments being made. Finding solutions that satisfy the short-term as well as benefitting the long-term position are better than those serving only immediate survival. And a separate exercise to think in this manner is not required.
Beneath the surface
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00

"Everything in this world has a hidden meaning."
--Nikos Kazantzakis
Bernie Madoff sentenced to 150 years. His lawyer asked for 12. Actuarial statistics give men his age perhaps 8.
Ruth Madoff is allowed to keep $2.5 million. A "deal" with the prosecution. (One wonders: Was there something that they couldn't prove in order to get an additional ten years thrown onto a sentence already greater than the years he would likely live?)
This case is troubling on so many levels. Sometimes it is difficult to understand that our judicial system "satisfies" rather formulaically, in terms of years and dollars. Most of us have come to believe a theatrical depiction of "justice." However, real justice is typically wanting in terms of emotional satisfaction or at least some emotional catharsis, the trump card of Hollywood.
In the Madoff case, the emotions of the victims may be satisfied early on with incomprehensible numbers when it comes to designated years of penal servitude. In reality, with the chances that Madoff will not live out more than 8, are the victims hoping that at least those years for him will be a miserable eight?
Disturbing, as well, is the fact that the Madoff victims want "restoration of their losses." The unrecoverable loss is always tough to accept. There are no guarantees in life. Certainly not for private investment decisions. Yet, it is tougher to accept one's own loss if one reviews the deal for Ruth Madoff with her guaranteed $2.5 million. Should we add another criterion in our hypothetical quest to provide the victims' "long-term satisfaction with the final judgment?" Perhaps a better deal would have been if she had been only guaranteed an annual stipend of the same amount as received by the poorest person affected by her husband's scam. If that individual's income is deemed sufficient for them to live, it should be sufficient for any other individual. More important than this suggested action is the criterion to which this solution is alluding. Shared pain.
The criteria, we find, are not about numbers, either years or dollars. The real issues are centered on degree of misery. Suffering. And the need to know that the convicted experience a similar, if not exact, pain. There are obviously many other criteria that are at play.
In any decision, it is always important to keep delving into the wording of factors to be used in the judgment. There are often key issues lying beneath initially suggested wording. These initially obscure issues are, in reality, the real factors by which judgment must be made. These need to be elicited and put front and center. Without doing so, the long term outcome of a decision, and the acceptance of that decision, will remain in question.
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To ban or not to ban... that is not the question
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00

When arguments ensue, it is often not due to a specific action or idea, but rather is due to various interpretations of the intentions behind the action/idea. A key to conflict resolution resides in the ability to listen for assumptions about, or interpretations of, any specific.
Nicolas Sarkozy recently stated his support for a parliamentary commission to look at whether to ban the wearing of burkas in public. France has already outlawed the wearing of veils in state schools. The deeply felt reactions to this announcement are rooted in the various interests' differing assumptions. These assumptions are both about the intent behind the action of banning, as well as about the clothing as a symbol of an intent.
The BBC suggests focus be put on whether these articles of clothing are being worn voluntarily or not. (As difficult as that might be to determine, this is a key point, but not the entire issue.) One needs to delve into the values not only of free will, but of social responsibility, and moral obligation. Rights guaranteed by "the state" to its citizens and those living within its borders must also be considered. Groups and individuals are obliged themselves to not act at odds with the laws of that state. In every aspect, individually or collectively, these are matters of choice, decisions and the balancing of values.
Defining and openly expressing what is hoped to be achieved by an action, i.e., intent, is the best place to start in a case of conflict. Understanding and agreement as to the value of that intent must then be attained. From that point, one can go on to elicit and examine all values that underpin the judgment, of all involved perspectives. Only then can a "best" action emerge and be discussed in terms of supporting both that intent and those values. The final choice will then be less susceptible to an immediate outcry based on assumed intent and values.
Judgment and forgiveness
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00

"Company, villainous company, hath been the spoil of me."
Falstaff, Henry IV
Condemnation can come swiftly, from a single act. Forgiveness takes almost an eternity and is webbed with complexity. The NY Times reports on the overt "shunning" of Ruth Madoff by her former hairdresser, florist and others. The similar plight of several other wives of convicted white collar criminals are discussed comparatively. These other wives seem to fare better in the comparison. A distinguishing factor in their redemption seems to have been their level of repentance, as exemplified by actions and attitude, something of which, to date, Ruth Madoff has shown little.
There are facts that bluntly seem to discourage any sense of forgiveness for Ruth Madoff. She wasn't just on the periphery of the crime. She worked for her husband's company, and also took the time to transfer jewelry and other assets to her family, once his Ponzi scheme and the extent of its harm to charities and others, were revealed.
Comparative analysis, the ability to separate and distinguish, and the ability to balance subjective and objective factors are key to reaching decisions with which we are comfortable. Emotions need to be integrated into any analysis leading to a judgment/decision. What we feel in our guts during the making of decisions is key to the conclusions we draw. We are human. The subjective, the emotional, will always be a huge element in our "thinking."
The Ruth Madoff story can serve as an example of an emotional "decision," although in reality our personal judgment is rarely analyzed quite so transparently or deliberately as will follow. First the greater context would be established: "to determine 'forgivability.'" Viable comparative analysis depends on apples-to-apples structure. Our category for comparison could be scoped to "criminals' spouses." We follow by listing characteristics that are currently being expressed that show redemptive qualities. These criteria can be highly subjective, objective or both. Here are a few:
- Exhibits a sincere attitude of remorse.
- Has taken actions to rectify injustices directly.
- Has performed services to offset injustices that cannot be rectified directly.
- Has been authoritatively determined to have had little or no involvement in the crime itself.
- Has distanced from the convicted criminal ("the company we keep").
- Has returned or shed ill-gotten gains (but not to family).
Each of these criteria has a different level of importance to each of us. Determining that relative importance, and then assessing each person against all of them will confirm and lay out visually what our guts tell us. We will be able to see precisely how we view each person relative to the others.
Decisions are the end point in the process of judgment. Precise and bearing finality. The ending of consideration. The end to deliberation. The process of deciding will always be influenced by both emotional and objective factors. Both types need to be recognized as valid. We can be sure that many influences will be at play when we judge, or, are judged. And if, when, and how, we forgive.
In defense of decisions
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00
An interesting comment was made to me at a recent gathering: "The problem is not making a decision, it is in defending the decision one makes."
In yesterday's New York Times, two articles underscored the need for framing the context of any decision so that it is not undermined. The first article commented on the selection of Sotomayor for Supreme Court justice, and the other critiqued the decision to close to traffic several portions of Broadway. Both critiques (judgments of decisions), started with the details of each decision.
In the Sotomayor article, not unexpectedly, the immediate criteria under scrutiny, and depicted as her "qualifications," were that she is Hispanic [note: my "Hispanic" friends have told me they prefer to be referred to as "Latino" or "Latina," a term Sotomayor herself uses], and that she was raised in poverty.
It is only further into the article that we hear a better phrasing of the context of the search. Obama’s intent, the author states, was to "add diversity of background to the panel [the Supreme Court]." Still, such a statement depicts but a means to achieve something else. A better criterion, against which all candidates could be assessed, might have been "Will strengthen the Court's collective ability to represent the full spectrum of persons that are subject to the laws of the United States." This broader criterion, of course, does not preclude the need to identify other criteria, such as "Is well versed in Constitutional law," "Has significant experience in matters of appellate adjudication," "Has exceptional educational qualifications in the law," and so forth. It is essential, as well, that the relative weight of all criteria be determined.
Being Latina, or coming from poverty, are specific characteristics of one person being assessed. How these specific characteristics support broader criteria is the more appropriate judgment as to their merit.
Broader criteria form a framework for any decision. Without first building this framework, specifics of a decision are then subject to attack by critics in terms of after-the-fact development of any framework of their choosing.
In the article regarding closing of traffic, criticism also focused on details, framed in terms of the author’s attempt to create the larger picture. Allusions as to the decision's purpose were "an attempt to create a greener city," or "to create a genuine social space." A desire for a grand plan is voiced while criticizing the apparent haphazard disconnection of closed-off blocks: "Until the city commissions a plan for a more detailed design, we won’t know what they will become.” The author is skirting the heart of the matter, i.e., the fact that the big picture, "the grand plan" is still an unknown. A plan is not just a series of specifics. It is the combination of specifics supporting a larger set of objectives.
In both articles, those judging the decisions critiqued specifics and did so in terms of assumed purposes. If persons have not been told what is trying to be achieved, they will instinctively come up with what they, themselves, believe is the purpose. People instinctively have a desire to frame an argument. The same is true for a defense.
Any action will serve an unknown purpose; a purpose will be developed after-the-fact to justify the action. To be sure, without actions, any conceptual idea will never come to fruition. Both, therefore, are needed. It is still best, however, to state one's purpose(s) first, followed by selection of actions or characteristics that are most supportive of the purpose(s). A defense of one's decision will be framed solidly. It will not need to be manufactured later, when it will only be deemed a contrived justification.
When differences matter
Sat, Apr 29 2000 04:00

It is said that buying a house is one of the most stressful events in life. A real estate agent friend told me that the toughest part of selling, for the agent, was witnessing relationships being strained as young couples, while in their first house buying process, learned how differently their "significant other" valued the identical housing options. Seeing eye to eye, i.e. having an identical set of values, was rarely the case.
The same is true in business. Virtues of a business case typically dominate the viewpoints of Marketing, Sales, and Research & Development. Finance, Legal and Operations will tune in to the risks. That is, one observes, the nature of those jobs.
In both examples, it is important to note that the criteria by which one judges is neither "right" nor "wrong." Judgment factors, whether subjective or objective, indicate for each party “what is important to me,” “what matters to me,” “what makes something ‘good’ in my view.”
These factors, for the person stating them, are not open to question. But, so often we hear an argument focus on the criteria by which someone else is judging: “That’s not even important.” And the retort: “Well, maybe not important to you, buddy, but it is important to me!!” If a criterion of importance to another is not allowed to be voiced, one can be sure that it will still be influencing any discussion of choices, albeit behind a mask of obscurity.
Differing parties should be encouraged to clarify their own value systems without judgment. Each party needs to define its own set of criteria by which it will appraise the options before it. The factors form the basis of opinion. And, it must be remembered, if the same factor appears on everyone's list of criteria, this does not mean that the item has equal importance to everyone. Let each individual or perspective find the relative importance of what matters to them. Then, go ahead. Have each party assess every option against its own set of criteria.
Results generated will be more valuable than if one had forced agreement on a set of criteria that are deemed wanting by some, or deemed a compromise by others. An integrated picture showing each viewpoint's position on an option or case will emerge. Then, the best steps to deal with each perspective's “big issue(s)” can be planned.
A good decision is not just about reaching agreement, it is about reaching understanding of differences and forging a path that addresses all with respect. The shift is behavioral: from trying to convince to finding common understanding.

